Over a year ago and still evident.

april 29, 2008



let me be the one to-address what I know I am not alone in believing.


Do know,
this is about no one person in particular,
but rather,
a trend I see manifesting,
and I would certainly rather it not.


This is not about one man, or men. This is not about one woman, or women. I value the differences between women and men. I understand the compulsions, the whims, the essence of the division that gives both sexes their identities.


I also acknowledge that there is no certain type of man, no certain type of women, we are complex creatures, and our lives define us, not our gender.


still.



What is it with the resistance to monogamy these days?
and if not monogamy, then at least, connectability?
What is the rush to "get some"?
explain to me, the urge to watch ourselves act out sexploits on videotape,
and the repulsion at the idea of taking a look at something more true about ourselves?

Why see yourself as a body?
You are not flesh,
you are soul.


Sex, I understand sex.
I enjoy sex.



But where is there value in physical sex alone?
this is not to say that there need be a relationship, marriage, or condoned and sanctioned anything to have sex occur.



that, to me, is ridiculous.



but, there should be a commitment no?
and that commitment should be to the honesty and quality of a solitary moment that you share with someone when you entwine your bodies with them.



the physical transaction alone is stale. The freshness of sex, is the awakening to a greater sensation.



sex is a tool by which our minds are able to express things that words cannot.




Sex is pleasurable, but certainly not ignorant.




Ignorance is NOT bliss.




One should not have to turn off their mind to turn on their bodies.
On should not have to defend their emotions to offend their sensibilities.


one should be most mentally heightened when they are having sex.


With this in mind,
it is impossible to have meaningful sex with someone you do not respect.



It is impossible to have meaningful sex with someone you have not learned appropriately.


It is impossible to have meaningful sex with a person whom you can punctuate with a period after the thought of their name.



Sex should never be the closing of something.



It should never be the ceasing of a feeling.



Instead,
sex should be a tool, implicated to explore.



Exploration- that is afterall what sex is .



Sex should , too, be an expression of love.



Not the love outlined in a marriage license,
Not the love society tells us we must go out to dinner and wear titles to achieve.



it is not an expression inside any store shelf card, or boxed chocolate,

Instead,
the expression is a coalescence of self.



The love, comes in the respect for yourself and for the enjoyment of the person you are with.




Sex is a little private room in which you can say anything without the reverberation of your voice.



Sex is the means we are given, to unite in a way that is far beyond the shake of hands or the meeting of lips.



Why would be go about putting our bodies in embraces that limit us instead of liberate us?
I cannot fathom why someone would prefer to attempt to chew one's own mouth than to fill it with reason and questions to which they are seeking answers to.

why travel blind in the night with a flashlight in your pocket?

wake up!
connect with someone.




believe in something.




share a moment,
become someone you have not been before.



Be responsible for your sexual exploration.



say to yourself: I want to be here,
and then go there.

Go there completely, deeply, and with fervor.



achieve a higher plane of understanding.




get tangled in some sheets and climb into a revelation.




When did a physical connection become a transaction between two bodies, and stop being a pleasure of the mind?

Tantra, that is where the thought resides.



our bodies are the manifestations of our minds.



are hands are attatched to our arms because there are no appendages to our souls.




surface happiness is dust, and nothing will grow from it.




dig deeper.



realize the connections of your actions.



become centered in yourself and see the beauty in not what you can contribute to another person in body weight,
but what you can serve with the essence of who you are.



The best sex always has, but is not limited to;

eye contact, and resolution.



honesty, with no expectations.




laughter, even if you hold it in.




connection and vulnerability.




the absence of reason.




the absence of guilt.




adventure and wit.




solace of heart.




inversion, of self and state.




bravery, not brutality.




confidence, in what is being had.




knowing- a greater understanding.






This is not an anti-sex rant. This is a pro- sexual revelation.